I’m coming to you live this week from my backyard. Trust me, when you live in Minnesota, you’ll take advantage of EVERY chance to be outside in the beautiful spring weather.
So this week, the question I’m asking you is: Have you ever settled for a less than stellar relationship?
Do you know why?
What steps could you take to ensure you don’t wind up in the same spot again and again and again?
Please click on the video above and check out my first tip on how to break this pattern! After all, you deserve it, Beautiful!!!
Are you facing a tough choice? Wondering if you should leave a relationship or stay? Click on this video to find out what you can look forward to when you finally MAKE that tough decision.
Imagine This: You’re in dreamland. Zzzzzzzzzz. Blissful. Unaware. Major REM activity going on.
Suddenly, the alarm goes off. You tap the snooze button. You’re a bit groggy.
THEN IT HITS YOU LIKE A FREIGHT TRAIN — OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MY HEART IS BROKEN!
I used to loathe going to sleep during a breakup because it meant I had to wake up and there’d be that little moment in between sleep and reality where I had forgotten all my pain. Where there was no pain. And then reality would slap me in the face. Damn, I hated it.
Unfortunately, there is no way to get around this moment unless, of course, you want to set the Guinness world record for Most Hours a Human Being Has Stayed Awake. While this title is impressive, it’s not worth the bags you’ll have under your eyes. You will wake up. You will have to face your day. It’s at this moment you have a choice.
I recommend you either:
A) Smile. This sounds hard when you’re sad. If you force yourself to smile (yes, physically smile) first thing in the morning, you will feel a teenie tiny bit better. Try it. It’s almost impossible to smile and feel bad at the same time.
B) Pretend your pillow is his face and give it a good swat. Yes, this suggestion contains violent tendencies but if you get it out of your system first thing, I bet you can go back to Step A and really mean it. Sometimes, once isn’t enough. Don’t feel bad if you need to repeat this step a few times. Go ahead. No one’s watching.
C) Close your eyes and assign him an animal spirit guide. Some of the first things that come to mind are the ever-popular pig or dog or ass. You could be really creative and make him a stink bug, goat or one of those monkeys with big red butts. Think of the animal. Picture his face. Merge the two. Ta-Da! How unattractive is that? Ewwwww!
D) Close your eyes and contemplate and plan your day and see yourself going through your day as the strong fabulous woman you are. Imagine you ~ walking tall and proud. You strut right by the vending machine at work without giving that Snickers bar a second thought. You laugh more. You OWN your day. You make it what YOU want it to be.
It goes without saying that it’s really important to take care of YOU during this time. Typically, the way you start your day influences the hours that follow. Why not start it out from a happy place? It’s your choice. Since we all know you’re amazing, it’s a pretty good bet that sensational days are ahead!
You may not believe me when I say this but this feeling does get better with time. Pretty soon, it will be 30 seconds before reality hits you. Then a minute. Then 5 minutes. Then longer. Until then, I hope these suggestions help, You Fabulous Doll!
All of us have decisions to make each day…usually in the hundreds and thousands depending on what’s going on in our lives. Will we have a double cheeseburger at lunch or soup and salad? Will we watch Desperate Housewives or CSI? Will we curse at the old lady that cut us off in traffic or smile and say, “Who Cares?”
Have you ever decided WHO you’re going to be on any given day? Have you ever decided HOW you would like the events in your life to play out that day?
If you try it, I think you’ll be amazed with the results.
Here’s how it works:
1. You wake up (duh, right?). While lying in bed (it’s important that you don’t get up yet ~ stay relaxed and in bed), picture the day that you have ahead of you. Perhaps you have a meeting scheduled or lunch plans or a workout class.
2. Whatever it is, think about each event and feeeeeel how you’d like the outcome to be. Imagine walking out of that meeting knowing that you contributed in a big way. Go ahead. Give yourself an imaginary pat on the back. Or think about enjoying your lunch with laughter and good food. Imagine your commute going smoothly. If you’ve got something difficult on your plate, feeeeel the best possible outcome. I mean feel it in your gut.
3. Smile and go about your day.
Guess what you just did? You made a decision about who you are going to be today. You decided what you’d like to get out of the day and you just sent some positive energy up ahead of you to pave the way.
Watch this magic work day after day after day for you, Dear. You deserve a beautiful life!