Q: Hi Laura. I’m divorcing my husband of six years. We’ve got two kids and I’m really scared. I feel uncertain about everything – my ability to cope financially, being a single parent, being alone and making decisions for myself and the kids. It all seems overwhelming and I’m constantly worrying about it. How do I handle this fear? ~ Molly A.
A: Hi Molly. What a great question. First of all, I must say that you are not alone. Your feelings are totally natural. You are going through a huge life transition here. You really don’t know what your life will look like in the future except that it will be DIFFERENT. When you get caught up in the worry, step back. Take a deep breath. Take another one. In these moments, it’s good to focus on the big picture and project yourself into your life one year from now. Ask yourself: Will you be living in a van by the river? No. Will you be living in a padded room at Shady Acres Mental Hospital? No. Will you be okay? Yep. Will you be stronger? Yep. Will you be happy? Yep. It’s during these times that I find “future daydreaming” most helpful. Let yourself feel the calm that comes with KNOWING you’ll be just fine. Ahhhhhhh. Now doesn’t that feel better?